HeavenLeigh
10-18-2005, 10:04 PM
I have been making a huge attempt to form some sort of bond type thingy with T's Mom.
I have tried to look past everything I loathe about her and be more open minded about the whole situation.......and it isn't working.
A little background......
Due to chemical contamination in the area he grew up in.....T had to have 2 major brain tumors removed one when he was 5 and the other when he was 8-ish.
When he was 18 he got a nice settlement from the co. that caused the pollution. His Mom took him for a ride.....talked him into going in 1/2 with her psycho boyfriend (my cousin's ex husband BTW) and they bought a huge house. T bought all the furniture, had the utilities in his name, etc.... Some papers got forged, Tommy lost his 1/2 of the house. Not before his mom and her psycho went thru what money was left. His Mom had bought a car, decided she didn't want it, T gave her cash for it to keep from ruining her credit, she took the money but the car didn't get paid off. She and the psycho disappeared for a month, went to FL, and the car was repoed.
Okay, this is just the beginning. Up until I finally put my foot down she was calling here 2-3 times every blasted day. Wanting money, cigarettes, me to co-sign for her a car, wanting to "borrow" my pain meds after I had surgery on my neck, this, that, and what-ever. She can't keep money since she's addicted to drugs. I have some members of my own family that are in her boat and I refuse to be chummy with them.....and I'm sure not aiding in her drug problem by being at her beck and call. Of course T was.
He has done so much better but here lately since I have been "nice" and trying she has started calling again wanting things and T is starting to fall right back into her trap. He's even wanting her to go on weekend outings with us, of course at our expense. I hate to say anything since he has helped me so much financially but his Mom's live in makes about the same as we do in a week. He gets paid on Thursdays, we have twice the bills and an extra person in the house, yet we had to go buy a can of fix a flat to take to them tonight because they didn't have so much as $5.
I can't do this, I refuse to do this.......I love T and he has been nothing but wonderful to me but I wouldn't think twice to kick his ass to the curb if this goes any further. It's like she poisons his mind into thinking she's so wonderful. Kinda like the abused child syndrome that is always trying and searching for acceptance in the abuser.
Any advice?
I have tried to look past everything I loathe about her and be more open minded about the whole situation.......and it isn't working.
A little background......
Due to chemical contamination in the area he grew up in.....T had to have 2 major brain tumors removed one when he was 5 and the other when he was 8-ish.
When he was 18 he got a nice settlement from the co. that caused the pollution. His Mom took him for a ride.....talked him into going in 1/2 with her psycho boyfriend (my cousin's ex husband BTW) and they bought a huge house. T bought all the furniture, had the utilities in his name, etc.... Some papers got forged, Tommy lost his 1/2 of the house. Not before his mom and her psycho went thru what money was left. His Mom had bought a car, decided she didn't want it, T gave her cash for it to keep from ruining her credit, she took the money but the car didn't get paid off. She and the psycho disappeared for a month, went to FL, and the car was repoed.
Okay, this is just the beginning. Up until I finally put my foot down she was calling here 2-3 times every blasted day. Wanting money, cigarettes, me to co-sign for her a car, wanting to "borrow" my pain meds after I had surgery on my neck, this, that, and what-ever. She can't keep money since she's addicted to drugs. I have some members of my own family that are in her boat and I refuse to be chummy with them.....and I'm sure not aiding in her drug problem by being at her beck and call. Of course T was.
He has done so much better but here lately since I have been "nice" and trying she has started calling again wanting things and T is starting to fall right back into her trap. He's even wanting her to go on weekend outings with us, of course at our expense. I hate to say anything since he has helped me so much financially but his Mom's live in makes about the same as we do in a week. He gets paid on Thursdays, we have twice the bills and an extra person in the house, yet we had to go buy a can of fix a flat to take to them tonight because they didn't have so much as $5.
I can't do this, I refuse to do this.......I love T and he has been nothing but wonderful to me but I wouldn't think twice to kick his ass to the curb if this goes any further. It's like she poisons his mind into thinking she's so wonderful. Kinda like the abused child syndrome that is always trying and searching for acceptance in the abuser.
Any advice?