Fathers day ??

[Lezlee]

My husband decided last Fathers Day to go away for the weekend 6 hours away for a bike ride event. Now this year they are having the same event on Fathers Day weekend. I was hoping he wouldn't go this year so he could be home to spend Fathers day with me and our son. I did mention us gooing along so my son could be with his Dad but that idea didn't seem to sit very well with my husband.

I feel really hurt over this and can't believe that he would choose to spend the whole weekend away from his son instead of being here to make a memory with his son.

How do others feel about this ?? He gets to bike ride ALOT.

[Csara]

aww, that is really crummy. I would feel really bad about it as well. Why would he not want you guys to come along? That way he gets to have the best of both worlds......he can do what he loves (biking) and be with the ones he loves!
How old is your son? Maybe he can tell his dad that it's important to him to be with his daddy on father's day!!

[Lezlee]

He is 13 and really looks up to his Dad. I just never thought my husband would ever be the type to not want to be a part of Fathers Day with his son. He never used to be so cold hearted until recently.

I am in a tough spot. I don't want to see my son spend Fathers Day alone but then if we go I'm sure we will be treated like dirt.

Any suggestions ?

[Csara]

It does seem like a tight spot. Does your son know that his dad isn't planning on being around for Father's Day? He is definitely old enough to realize he can/should say something to his father if he wants him to be there so you really don't need to tell him. I would talk to my husband if I were you and tell him that it's not fair to his son and he should think about what the right thing to do is. Good luck!

[Lezlee]

I tried to talk to him and offer to search for a place for us to stay nearby the race location and he acted like he really didn't think that it was a good idea that we would go. He mentioned that if we went it would mess up who rode with who and blah blah blah.

He then said that Mothers Day and Fathers Day were bull----- (bad word!) and they were just a label on the calendar and didn't mean anything.

Boy I don't even recognize the man I married anymore. I have decided to go to counseling by myself. I really think I need to do that to get some guidance.

I was so mad I couldn't even see straight.