In laws

[rach]

Whats your take on them, I am finally able to sit and speak to me FIL, without Jase there it's only taken 20 months. But at least now I can say I can do it.

xxxxRach

[HeavenLeigh]

Oh Lord, get me started on my ex in-laws and I would never shut up. They are horrible, horrible, vindictive, idiotic, ppl. I told my now ex husband long before we divorced that the first thing I would do if we split was slap his momma right across her face. She is Satan's inbred daughter. As far as my now ex b/f's parents....they are wonderful ppl. If I seen them out today I would walk up and hug them. I can't blame it on them that their son is a screw up.

[brandis77]

I haven't had much of a family for many years, so getting used to having in-laws is very strange. Jeremy's mother is a doll, but she really talks a lot and doesn't seem very open to hearing different opinions. Plus, she smokes about 100 cigarettes a day, so Jeremy and I always reek after coming home from her place at Christmas. Luckily, she's coming to our place this year, so she's going to have to follow our rules! SMOKE OUTSIDE, BABY!!!

Jeremy's father and step-mother are very nice people also. However, I have mixed feelings about them given that they weren't very good to Jeremy when he was little.

When I thought about gaining in-laws, I was looking forward to having a family. I wanted to have someone I could count on and talk to about anything, but I don't really have that. Maybe it will take time to have a relationship like that? With the way Jeremy's family is, I can't see that happening. :(

[Christmas Bride]

I love my future in-laws, but I just don't have much in common. My family and his family are opposites. My family likes to have a good time...we often get loud; his family is very reserved...don't get me wrong...they are fun, too...but not like us! I still don't like to be left alone with them for too long...a few minutes is ok, but I wouldn't just go over to their house and sit there with them all day if Andrew wasn't going to be around!

[rach]

I don't know how our wedding will Be Jase's family are drinkers yet reserved, where as my family rarely drink and get up and have fun. :eek: :eek:

xxxxRach

[Margarita]

Oh, you've done it now, Rach! LOL Seriously, I'll try to keep this short. (I'm stealing from my post on WT so I don't have to re-type everything.)

I don't get along with my husband's parents AT ALL. For the first couple of years, things were fine. Then, my MIL and FIL decided they hate me and did not want me to marry their son. I've tried to figure out why, to no avail.

Anyway, needless to say, they were less than amused to hear of our engagement. From the very first, they acted inappropriately. They did tons of terrible things to try to ruin it, like planning the entire rehearsal party (only 11 guests attended the wedding and not the rehearsal party, not what I wanted) without asking what we wanted, lied about the MOG's attire, MOG tore up her corsage and left it on a table at the front doors, FOG was not present for the toasts, both left the reception 2 hours early without saying goodbye to us.

All of that resulted in 8 months of no communication with them whatsoever. My husband didn't want things to continue that way, so we had a big blowout of a reunion. Now, my husband calls them when he wants to, and I haven't had to see or talk to them except to pass him the phone. Works for me.

We're married and happy, and that's all that counts. My SIL is cool. She has her own issues and depends on us a lot for support. My BIL is a weirdo, and I doubt I'll ever have any kind of relationship with him. He once told my hubby he didn't like me, two weeks before the wedding, but he's since apologized. Something we never got from their parents. :mad:

[rach]

Although I now get a long with my inlaws to be I will never get along with my FSIL she spread some nasty rumours to her parents when Jas and I started going out, all untrue she had met me once. So for one convo from her I've had 20 months of hell

[suzieq728]

I dont have in-laws, and I am greatful for that. My ex in-laws were a bunch of waco's! I dont ever want to encounter people like that ever again in my life....:eek:

[Deana]

I think I got really lucky in the FIL dept... mine are the nicest, most caring, good people; very, very family oriented. I really like them so much. I can't say enough about them.
My FI however, I feel for! He's coming into a very strange family! My mom is an angel... wonderful (but she lives 1000 miles away:cry: ). My dad and s.mom (who live in the same town as we do) can sometimes be hard to get along with and are often judgemental (not just with him, but the entire planet). SO we're just going to have to create our own little family!! :sperm:

[daevlx]

My ex-inlaws are great, I love them like they were my own parents. Even seven years after my divorce, I still talk to them on the phone all the time. (We live in different states). She was the one who taught me how to bake, and my ex fil was like my dad, who died when I was small.

Now for my new in-laws.........somethings that comes to mind...........psyco (sp?)!!! These people are CRAZY!!! In fact, my husbands entire family should be in mental homes. When my husband and I first got together, I was still not divorced yet (a money thing only) and of course I had three girls. That was two blows against me right there. WE had been together about a year, and the plotted and pulled off, kidnapping my husband!! We were not married at the time. But they actually, took him out of state. They put him in the back of the truck (no way out), telling him they were going to take him for a drink. Wrong!! They took him out of state. He had no way out, and with three against one, not much of a chance. Needless to say, its been a long time since we have seen them......

[Deana]

daevlx! That is the craziest story! Wow! How wierd that they did that! They sure don't sound like the most normal people...:eek:

[Cheatara]

My husbands dad and step mom are great! I didn't like his step mom at first, cause she has some weird quirks, but now I love her. I can not imagine a better man than his dad, he is going to be such a great grandfather someday! Now his mom and her boyfriend, that's different. They are nice, but they make me feel so uncomfortable. And I have never seen them without some alchohol of somesort in their hands... It could be so much worse though, all for of them are super nice to me, I guess that is all that is important.

[daevlx]

Deana

Normal, are you kidding? These people are FAR from normal. My DH has called a few times, to talk to them, but they still feel the same. They all are very manipulative. We both feel that it is their loss, not ours.

[AnG]

Wow, I'm very lucky! Both my husband and I can safely say that our in-laws are terrific! I occasionally have a clash with my brother in law, but that's just a personality "thang." We really do like each other, even if our personalities are so different that we end up irritating each other.

And my parents-in-law are great! I'm so glad -- they're the kind of people I'd like to be friends with even if they hadn't birthed my wonderful husband.

I'm sorry that some of the rest of you haven't had such good experiences with yours.

[Christmas Bride]

AnG-
Welcome to the boards! You will absolutely love it here!!!:D

[heiny]

My in-laws are pretty cool; however... My father in law has a bad habit of always making sexual comments to me... This started back when Dev and I were dating. He'll say stuff like... oh you remind me of your mother (my mother in law) soft sexy legs... Stuff like that, and always has to comment on my chest??? It is getting really old!!! What makes it worse is, I've lost about 40 pounds and he is really starting to make the comments again???

[Mel-icious]

:eek: Ick Amy, I would have to put him in his place, perv, what does Dev say to him or about it? :huh:

[heiny]

Dev never says much... I've asked several times for him to say something to his dad, but I have yet to hear him say he did??? I've just gotten used to it... But like I said since my weightloss hes really starting up again... I have no bawls!!! I need to get some and just tell him how it is!!!

[stacyl]

My in-laws are pretty cool overall. My FIL has a bad tendency to call freakin' early in the morning...especially on the weekend. and if he can't find us he calls again about every half hour. It's enough to make us turn off all the ringers in the house!!! God forbid someone need to get hold of us for an emergency!

[Hot Stuff]

My soon to be in-laws ask questions about my daughter's family. They want to know how often she goes to visit her grandparents and whether her dad has much to do with her. But they don't ask me. They ask my FI and he tells them everything! Is that appropriate? It gets me really upset but Dan says that they have a right to know because they'll soon be my daughter's grandparents too. I don't think it's any of their business. I've worked really hard to strike up a relationship that works for my daughter, me and her family. So far it's going great and I don't think my FI's parents need to be mucking around in it. What do you gals think? Do I have a legitimate beef here?

[Csara]

Personally, I hate that! If someone wants to know something about me, then ask ME! In your case, it's your daughter, they still should be asking you or not even asking at all.

[scully]

My FIL has a bad tendency to call freakin' early in the morning...especially on the weekend

LMAO I thought I was the only one this happens to. His Gma calls every sat morning 9am without fail which pisses me off cos I have to get up early for work all week and its basically the only chance I have to catch up on some extra sleep.
Oh and whenever Jim doesnt have class in the morning (tues and thurs) she calls at 9am and wakes him. I feel kinda bad for him cos not only does he go to college but he works at nights, so normally we dont get to bed till around 2am and once she has called he cant get back to sleep. She means well but I dont think she thinks sometimes.

[Ellyanne777]

Well my soon to be inlaws are wonderful. My father in law is the dad you always wanted. I mean he is awesome!! My mother in law used to be my best friend and our relationship went through some hard times but we are getting back on track finally.

[ksix]

I love my ILs so much. They are really great people. My FIL is probably about my favorite person in the world...so kind, great sense of humor, smart, interesting, and I can't wait till he gets to be a grandpa...he'll be the best!! (Apparently he can't either, because he's taken to hinting lately...)

My MIL is great too...we were the best of friends right off the bat. They say you marry a person like your opposite sex parent, and my husband did that! We are very much a like in a lot of ways. Right before our wedding, she and I went through some sticky times...nothing major, she just stressed me out royally...and the first few weeks after the wedding were hard. I think she was having a hard time letting her boy go...and I was still a little upset at some stuff my SIL pulled (which my MIL either didn't stop her from doing, or went along with--thus being the reason for a little tension between us). But in the past few months, we've started to mend things again, we both needed to just relax, put the wedding stresses behind us, and get on with our friendship. We've gotten to the point where we go out to lunch again, and talk on the phone for a while. I think we grew a lot in that month or so...our relationship is even stronger than before. She's the mom I haven't had for years!! (She will be a wonderful grandmother too!)

My husband on the other hand definately got the raw deal on this. My dad and his wife treated my husband like crap from the beginning...and when things got ugly between my dad and me, my husband got so tired of seeing me hurting. We don't have a relationship with my dad anymore, and if we ever did patch things up, my husband said he doesn't think he could ever look at my dad in a friendly manner. He would for me, but it would be a front. But I don't see that happening anytime soon.