No Kids Please

[*~Nicole~*]

We have chosen to have no children at our wedding.....most people know this but I was wondering if we should include this on our invitation or add a separate insert into the envelope to ensure people got the message.
DF's family are the kind of family that bring kids to everything so they are having a hard time with the fact that no kids are invited.
Any suggestions?

[Deana]

We just addressed the invitation to the parents only and left of children's names. We sent a letter to out of town guests letting them know that the times, hotels, etc., and also noted that the reception was an evening event for adults. We had someone who provided childcare at the ceremony, and the church coordinator made sure that moms knew they could take their children there.
It really wasn't a big problem - we kind of got the word out that it was for adults. Some friends of ours couldn't find a sitter so they ended up bringing their 5 month old... which was absolutely fine (and the photographer ended up getting a gorgeous b&w pic of the family).

[bjlong1]

Hi Nicole.

I have received invitations and on the insert card that mentions the receptions it will read something like "Adult reception immediately following service."

[HeavenLeigh]

I think D had a great idea to hire someone to do the childcare during and after the ceremony. Being a single momma it's a pain in the :moon: to come up w/ a babysitter sometimes. Having someone on site to care for the kiddies will help those out w/ kids.

[sheisler]

I know where you are coming from. I had planned on having no kids at my wedding and I didn't state it on my invitation and I ended up having people reply with like 6 people coming instead of the 2 I had planned on so I ended up with a lot more people coming then I had origionally thought. I would definatly suggest writing in the invite that the wedding is for adults only because if you don't you will end up with all the kids there. This is your day and you have to have what you guys want not what makes everyone else happy.

[monkeygirl38]

I really wanted to state that on my invites too, but DH was afraid it would hurt family members feelings and wouldn't let me......I now have a wedding video with nothing but chatter from a 2 year old on it....:(

Don't get me wrong--I love children, I just don't think weddings are the place for them...

[*~Nicole~*]

We have indicated that it is an adult reception hopefully people get the point.
We have decided that if anyone returns a reply with "extra" people on it that we will politely contact them and tell them that there will be no children invited.

[andrea]

i found this on a website and thought i would share with you.... its basically what everyone else said



3. How can I let people know that I don't want children at the wedding?

The only thing you can do is NOT include the children's names on the invitations. However, you'll find that some people will still bring their children.

So you might want to be prepared with a "kids table" that includes crayons, coloring books, and candy. Some even hire a babysitter to look after the children at the "kids table".

Some brides are now having "adult only" printed on their invitations but again, even at that, some people ignore the printing and assume "their children" are, of course, invited.

[netty]

Having someone to babysit kids at the wedding reception is a great idea. We thought of it also. Then the problem arose. She was asked to babysit but I guess it wasn't all clear. She expects to be included in the sit down dinner. We can afford it, but the bride doesn't know her and wasn't expecting her. Now what do we do? without losing our babysitter or totally offending anyone?:confused:

[*~Nicole~*]

maybe tell her that the bride wasn't expecting her but that you will provide pizza or something for them? Just an idea

[Kymness]

If you don't want any kids at your wedding then I would definately find some way to include the "adults only" message on your invitations somewhere. The word may get around that kids aren't invited, but you will still have people who think, "Well, they know we have children... surely they won't mind if we bring them..." and you'll end up with alot more children at your wedding then you bargained for. Having it printed on the invitations just makes it more official.

[andrea]

well so far no kids here....but i dont think most parents are going to drag their kids to vegas.. but we only invited 2 people with kids.. so we might have to deal with one of them when we come home and have a reception