The anticipation is killing me softly!!...

[Dovechild20]

My sweetie just let me know that he is shopping for my ring!!! WOWZERS!

I want to know, did your spouse let you know they were looking for rings/was going to propose soon? How did you handle the wait? Im not going crazy, but I could if I let myself!!!!!! Its just RIDICULOUSLY exciting! :D

[rdy2rac with]

We went in reverse. He asked me then we planned to wait to get the rings & I wasn't allowed to tell anyone until we got the ring. That was until I found out that everyone at his work knew. It was a torturous week or 2 when I couldn't tell my sister (my best friend) or anyone else. We still waited a little while before getting my ring.

[Csara]

heh, we were technically engaged for like a million years before we made it official. ;) We knew we were getting married after a few months of dating, but we actually waited a few years to finish college, get jobs, etc. before we got engaged. Needless to say, we designed my ring together and picked it up together, but he wouldn't let me put it on (or tell anyone--hehe) until we got into the car and he officially proposed to me again before sliding it on my finger. :D

[Deana]

Congratulations, what an exciting time!
My hubby and I knew that we wanted to marry each other from very early on. We looked at rings together one time (about 1 year into our dating) so that he could get an idea of what I liked. So I knew it was coming, just didn't know when! It's hard not to go crazy, but it's SO exciting! Just knowing that it IS going to happen is half the fun. :D

[tifferoo]

I know you directed this question to the married ladies, but the already engaged ladies can help too!!! I am so excited for you Dovechild. I knew my df was going to propose soon but he kept saying that he had to pray about the timing of getting the ring so I had absolutely no idea when he was going to ask. That kind of drove me crazy but I told him that I didn't want to pick out my own ring and I wanted to be surprised. I think if he would have had it his way, we would have went to the jewelry store together and picked it out together but since I said I wanted no part in it besides saying yes when he proposed, he went and handled his business alone. It seems like your df might try to surprise you as well. The only two people who knew about when he was going to propose was my pastor (because he proposed at church) and his mother.

[Dovechild20]

LOL@tifferoo, EXACTLY, i know he's tryna surprise me, i dont even think he'll let me do the whole browsing in jewelry shops thing!! I didnt just want married folks to answer but anyone that has evern been engaged, i need all the insight i can get!

But yes, I'm terribley excited and it IS an exciting time. We are both praying for timing and favor because things are so new (we are still under a year). Csara, i can definitely relate to the whole "unofficially engaged" thing. We've said before that we are something we like to call pre-engaged, lol. But I am highly old-fashioned and dont REALLY remember anyone engaged until a ring appears!

Even if he does propose soon, we still have till May/June until we graduate from school to even BEGIN to THINK about planning a wedding, etc.

I want to know, how do u keep from dropping hints!?, lolol

[Neneuu]

My hubby and I went several times to the jewelry store and looked.... everytime I'd get soooo excited, but he acted so faint by the time we'd leave the jewelry store :rolleyes: that I figured he just wasn't quite ready yet. I knew he'd do it, just didn't know when. So the day he picked (of course he asked my parents for their blessing) I had NO clue, until my grandmother called me at work and told me to 'get gorgeous' for the date we had that night. (oops) THAT gave it away right then, but I was kinda in denial, yk? It was definitely worth the surprise, so hold out and don't drop hints, I'm sure he knows you want it now and he is just waiting for the perfect time to leave you totally breathless and surprised! YAY! Be sure to tell us all the details when it does happen!!:)

[nana]

Congratulations! My FH took me ring shopping in Christmas of 2000. Two years later on Christams of 2002 he proposed! I hated the wait but was completely suprised when he asked. I couldn't have imaged a more perfect moment. Your moment will be just as perfect, I know it is hard but try not to think about it.

[meliz]

SO EXCITING! Congratulations! Is he gonna try and surprise you?


In our case, hub and I talked about it... but I wanted no part in choosing the ring... so I played the waiting game and was surprised and yet not so surprised when he finally popped the Q. My sis just got engaged last week and it was the same for them-- but she stressed about it... and had "nightmares" about the ring-- that it was too small, too yellow gold, and had a ruby. Heh heh. But it was still harder on me... I knew 3 weeks ago he was gonna do it and was sworn to secrecy. No fair!

Anyway, I hope you enjoy your engagement as much as I did and as much as sis has enjoyed her 6 days of engagement so far!

[Life201]

I was totally surprised! We had been dating for a little more than a year when he proposed. We had always kinda known we were going to end up together. He even asked my mom (who raised me) before he proposed in front of my whole family at Christmas. His parents knew he was going to propose and his mother was furious that he wanted to wait and do it in front of my family. He had actually let me think he had forgotten my present (we had agreed to exchange our gifts for each other at my family’s home) at his parents that morning. So I went half the day telling everyone he had forgotten my gift and having my feelings hurt. In the middle of all the chaos of everyone opening gifts and talking at my parents’ home, he leaned over and pulled something out of the camera bag. When I opened the little box, it was an anniversary band style with 13 small diamonds. I really didn’t know what to think. It wasn’t a typical engagement ring and I wasn’t sure at first if he was proposing until he knelt down in front of me and asked me to marry him. All I could do was cry and nod my head and then he kissed me and held me for the longest time.

I loved being surprised and having no idea it was coming!

Congratulations to you!
:D

[Dovechild20]

Thanks everyone for sharing!!! I'm TOTALLY excited! and yes its VERY hard not to think about....now everytime he says he wants to go out, ima think of it...everytime he says he has something to give me,...IM GONNA THINK ABOUT IT! But oh well, I will live and definitely keep everyone updated!

[MiLady Mirlyn]

How exciting for you!!!

It would have driven me nuts!

We went out and picked out my rings, and we bought it, but he wouldn't let me have it until he "officially proposed" He wanted to do it just right... but then he couldn't stand the wait either! :D And one day when he couldn't stand it any longer, he waited until I was outside and he asked my mom for my hand... (and the goofy mom she is said he could have my hand, but she wanted to keep the rest of me!! LOL) Then he came outside with me and proposed!!

As for his ring... we also went looking together, and I made note of which one he liked the best... then the next day, at lunch, I went and bought it... and didn't tell him until right before the wedding! And I wouldn't have shown it to him except I wanted to make sure it fit.

Well, good luck and keep us posted!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[babyblue]

How exciting!! I know how you feel althoughour situation was a little different, actually just like Csara's. We decided were getting married after a few months of dating, but never made it official... we wanted to wait until he was finished with school. 2 1/2 years later I found out I was pregnant so we wanted to make it official... I designed my ring online, and he went and got it with his mom, although they told me that they just looked and didn't get it yet! So I was sitting there for two WEEKS wondering when the official proposal was coming and one day he woke me up, told me to get dressed, he was taking me to my favorite restaurant for lunch. I was almost 4 months along at the time... we went outside to leave and he just got down on one knee right away! I didn't even wait for him to put the ring on me, he showed me the box and I opened it and put it on myself I was so excited!! :lol: Sorry didn't mean to hijack your thread but I know how anxiuos and excited you must be!! :D

[Dovechild20]

Just wanted to give a lil happy update here!

My sweetie is coming home with me for Thanksgiving to meet my folks for the very first time! I am SOOOOO excited and nervous and ELATED!

I wanna be nervous, but then Im like, forget that, I feel like dancing! lol

I asked him if he was nervous and he was like "No, its time to get this process on the road!" lol

I am so excited he will be meeting my folks and I cant wait to meet his folks, but that will be harder since his parents live in AZ! But I've spoken with his mother and she is so excited to speak with me and raved about all the good things she's heard about me and cant wait to meet me! I was CHEESING from ear to ear!
His aunt and brother heard of his intentions to marry me and were like, OK, so what kinda wedding are ya'll gonna have?!


LOL!

I will update you guys on how everything goes after Turkey Day!

[Csara]

That is GREAT!! I bet you will come home from Turkey Day with a big announcement for us. Can't wait. ;)

[nana]

How exciting! I hope you two have a wonderful turkey day together! Just think, this is the first of many holiday's you will spend together!

[Dovechild20]

Csara: THAT would be crazy, but WONDERFUL! We will have to see!

nana: it is CRAZY exciting! Thank you so much for your well wishes and I wish the same for you and yours!


Lord, I hope I dont pass out from anxiety and anticipation, LOL!

[tifferoo]

I am happy for you that your df is celebrating the holidays with you. But I am sure you can't wait until it's your turn to meet the folks!!! I was soooo nervous when I met my df's family. It was at a birthday party for his 97 year old grandfather. Everybody in the family was there looking at me. I felt like I was on stage...lol. I hope your fiance doesn't have to go through that since it is the holiday's. Make sure you update us again!!!

[Dovechild20]

Awww, thank you Tifferoo! I will be sure to update! I get more and more excited as time passes....Ive NEVER been THIS excited about Thanksgiving in my entire life, lolol

[Dovechild20]

Greetings everybody!, i hope everyone had a great Thanksgiving, because I SURE DID!

Now, i know what you're thinking...did she get asked the big question? NO, but im not dejected, because the trip for us was strictly get to know the fam and for the fam to get to know him and us.

AND THEY LOVED HIM/US!


My mother fawned over him THE WHOLE TIME! She has NEVER done that with ANYONE, not my best friends, not any of my past boyfriends, not ANYONE! She packed his Isuzu Trooper down with SO much food for him to go home with it wasnt EVEN funny! The whole time after he left it was John this and John that, it was so CUTE and SURREAL. My grandparents liked him also and very much enjoyed his company!

Even my best friends loved him, my very best friend exclaimed "You two look so good together!" Of course I gushed after hearing that, lol

Later, after I had arrived home again, we were on the phone and I told him how much it meant to me that he met those most special in my life like my family and friends and then he inquired "Can we get married now?" I beamed and said "Yes, we can get married now." LOL That was by no way a proposal, because the only obstacle in our way to the alter is money. I am confident that once we graduate this spring and land our respective jobs that those worries will somewhat dissipate....we sure don't want to start a marriage on shakey financial ground!

But anyways, like I said, it was THE best Thanksgiving I have ever had and I am so grateful to God that my sweetie was able to make it happen!

[yonksgirl]

I know what you are are talking about my now DH took me to look at ring then said nothing after that for awhile. That was all I could think about. Then we went to a friends house and he tried to get me to go to the pond with him and me being the baby I am said no that there were to many bugs well he just would not leave me alone about it and I kiddingly said the only way I was going down there if there was a ring in his pocket well I went down there and to my surprise there was!! I hate waiting for things but when they finally get her it is worth the wait!

And congrats a little early:D

[pikachu0519]

I'm glad to hear that John was a hit with your family and friends. I'm sure they'll love him even more after getting to know him better. It means so much when you finally find that special person, to be able to share him with those who are near and dear to you. It will make the proposal, and that special day, just that much more special knowing they love him as much as you do.:)

[tifferoo]

Originally posted by Dovechild20
The whole time after he left it was John this and John that, it was so CUTE and SURREAL. My grandparents liked him also and very much enjoyed his company!

Even my best friends loved him, my very best friend exclaimed "You two look so good together!" Of course I gushed after hearing that, lol

Wow!!! I am glad you had such a wonderful thanksgiving. I was reading your post and I said to myself, isn't this interesting, my df's name is also John and people always tell us how good we look together!!! It must be something about those Johns that brings us girls out...lol. But anyway, I am glad all went well.

[nana]

I am so glad your family liked John! Congratulations! You sound SOOOO happy!

[Dovechild20]

yonksgirl: Thanks for the early congrats, lol. I am eager but Im patiently waiting as well, i think that the surprise will knock me off my feet indeed! Btw, that proposal sounds so cool!

pikachu: Its funny you say that, because I was discussing that with my best friend and then John...when you're growing up, you think that your family doesnt know you or what you like and u feel like their opinion means very little. But then as you grow older and start to make heavier and heavier decisions, its almost as if you would treasure your family and close friends approval that much more and know that once you get it, life is much easier and less stressful. MY family were the LAST people *I* thought that would approve of someone I was with, but they have indeed surprised me.

tifferoo: YAYAYAYYAYA for Johns!!! LOL Yea, dudes named John seem to have it going on pretty well these days, but I hardly ever use his name, its always baby this, sweetie that and if not that, its JP (his initials)

During homecoming here at my school this semester, John came to visit and I walked him around alot of the school. One day while we were walking this lady came out of the blue, stopped us and exclaimed "Ya'll are TOO CUTE, just TOO CUTE!" We were astounded! I thought it was the most sweetly hilarious thing in the world! LOL! So now, its like a wink wink inside joke for us. I think its good tho that when you are truely in love, that OTHER people take notice, not that it matters that much, but love that strong isnt something that goes without notice, ya know?

nana: Thank you!!!! I am ECSTATIC! Now all I have to do is meet HIS family (our running joke is that that wont happen until the wedding, lol *his family lives in AZ*)

[Dovechild20]

Hi everyone! Sorry, Ive been MIA, but school among other things are kickin my butt.

I think engagement is closer than ever, but its all speculation of course! In the last two weeks, we've had more convos over engagement and getting married than we have ever had. He's asked me everything from what size ring I wear to do I want a public or private proposal (he settled on private, lol). Did anyone else go thru this just before he popped the question?


With that said, my weekend was a lil hard on me and my sweetie because we got to talking over the wedding issue again. With him he'd love to elope at the JOP and me I need SOME kind of ceremony. We didnt fight over it as much as we both voiced our concerns and frustrations about the issue and concluded that as long as we get married, thas all that matters. He doesnt want to me to resent him for foregoing a wedding and I dont want him to resent me for making him wait and spending more money, cause ultimately, money is what its coming down to. We dont have alot, we owe alot and he just doesnt see how a wedding is gonna help all that.

So, anyways, we talked it all out and expressed to each other that all we want is each other and whatever compromise that we can find will be a joyous one.

[yonksgirl]

Girl how are you doing it:confused: :wait: I would have had heart falure by now;) Everytimr he would ask me to go some were with him I would think is this it! You never know he may be carrying it just looking for the right time my friend's hubbie carried it for 2 days just waiting. I would be checking his pockets!! :argh: :D

Can you tell I hate to wait for anything:D

[tifferoo]

Originally posted by Dovechild20
Did anyone else go thru this just before he popped the question?

Yes, df asked me what my ring size was and if I wanted to pick out my own ring. I told him that I didn't want to pick out my own ring and I wanted it to be a total surprise. He told me that he guess that he would take me to a nice restaurant when he got ready to propose. I was like thanks for telling me!!! Now whenever we go out to eat, I will be wondering "Is he going to propose?" I was sooo nervous but he tricked me. He proposed to me at church instead...lol. So even though he might be throwing hints, he may just be doing so to throw you off...lol. But the suspense will be fun!!

[nana]

Originally posted by Dovechild20
He's asked me everything from what size ring I wear to do I want a public or private proposal (he settled on private, lol). Did anyone else go thru this just before he popped the question?


He started asking me about ring sizes and stuff almost 2 years before he proposed. Whenever we would go to a nice restruant or some place out of the ordanary...I kept wondering if he would ask the question. I always thought he would do it in private...just the two of us. Instead, he asked me on Christmas day in front of his whole family...I had no clue! It was wonderful and for a few minutes..it felt like it was just the two of us in the room.

Good Luck with the suspense! It will be wonderful when it happens.

[Dovechild20]

ARGH!!!! the suspence IS gonna kill me!!!!...


.....sigh, but I digress, lol


*how do I NOT be jumpy when i see him?, any suggestions?*

[Dovechild20]

Just wanted to update you guys again, although it will be short.


I know that he has picked a ring, but he hasnt bought it yet (just hasnt got all the money yet). I dont THINK it will be Valentine's Day, but maybe in March, but im not sure.

We have been experiencing a trial that could or could not set our plans back. I ask that whomever is so inclined to please pray for us.

[yonksgirl]

Gosh Girl Everytime you post I quick chech it thinking this will be it I think I am more on edge then you are!!! :p

I am sorry to hear about this You will be in my thoughts!:(

[tifferoo]

I too am sorry that you are going through but I want you to know that you have my prayers girl!

[Dovechild20]

Thank you so much, yonksgirl and tifferoo! :)

[Dovechild20]

Hay all! I figured I would give everybody a swift update on whassup with me and my hunny, lol.

We are doing better and victoriously weathering this trial....i really do think that it has bonded us together and made each of us stronger. Has anyone else experienced such a thing before they were married? Who'd a thunk it?, lol.


We've had more and more ring talk, but im not as pressed about it, i guess cause we've had this convo so frequently as of late, lol. He was asking me what kind of ring did I want, and im like, WHAT?!

side note: im not a jewelry type of girl, so im clueless about "what kind of ring I want"

So anyway, we went round and round about what kind of ring that would be best and that I would love (he doesnt want to go ring-windowshopping either, lol)....would it be big....would be set up high or lower in the band...did I still want the blue sapphire...yatta, yatta, yatta, lol. I asked him a couple ring questions as far as what kind of ring he would want to wear (cause not only am i clueless about women's rings, im EXTRA clueless about men's, lol). We came to good conclusions and were happy about the convo.

We are noticing that each time we talk about getting married and being married, it is SUCH a satisying, exciting, humbling, and connecting sort of thing. It makes us so much more...i dont know...aware of the fact that we are soon going to become one and thas astounding to me!

I think that the other reason we are having so many of these convos as of late is because we are currently taking a premarital counseling course and it goes over a LOT of stuff....fortunately we have talked about most of it. We anticipate possibley more counseling from church, hopefully it wont be too redundant.

As far as the wedding talk...its really leaned toward elopement....i know, thas a bad word in the lexicon of brides and weddings, but it seems very romantic and personal right now, which we like. We would like to go to Niagara Falls to do it and would have a couple people there and then throw a more traditional wedding next year for everyone. Im loving that idea, but im also open to the fact that once we get engaged that people might have strong opinions and those might affect us as well, so we will have to see.

Anyways, my update is long, but i just wanted to keep everyone updated and thank everyone for their thoughts and prayers!

THE ENGAGEMENT CANT BE FAR AWAY NOW!! WOOO HOOO!! *runs around room*

[tifferoo]

That's awesome dovechild!!! I promise you that you won't have half of the stress that I am having now if you elope!!!

Thanks for the update and you be encouraged!

[nana]

Dovechild...I am glad everything is coming along! Eloping is a WONDERFUL IDEA!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am really thinking I should have done the same thing!

Good Luck and keep us updated!