how do you get your best friend back if ya get in a fight?

[mitsumushu]

well, my best friend and i got in a really big fight and we're not talkin right now. I tried everything. I tried talkin to her in person, calling her, emailing her, and instant messanging her but its no use. She told someone else that she won't be as close to me as we were. And i don't think that words will help so i don't really know how to show her that i am sorry. Is there anyway we can be friends again?

[Mel-icious]

It's hard to say without knowing what happened, and what your past with her has been like. I know myself, have had to let go of a friend that I was close too since childhood, and another since junior high. People grow apart and change, the changes they made didn't fit my life any longer, so I had to let them go. :huh:

[MissRyry]

My best friend and I have had some difficulty lately. But her birthday came up and I showered her with gifts and attention and now everything seems to be okay again. I think she thought I just became busy with other things.

Can ya just kill her with kindness?? Send many e-greeting cards ... maybe a little gift . . .

>'.'<

[mitsumushu]

well, she is the kind of person that feels aqward alot. Like when we were playing true or dare. I dared her to kiss someone on the cheek and she chose me. She thought i took it the wrong way and she started avoiding me. So then, she stopped talkin to me alot and then had gotten a friend to take out her pictures out of my wallet. Then i just really mad and i riped the rest and gave it to her. But we have been for along time and were really close. So, it hurts to see that it ends. I really need help on this one.

[Deana]

Maybe just give it some time. Sometimes people need to cool off and put things back into perspective.
If you really want to still be friends (which it sounds like you do) I'd tell her that you are sorry if you hurt her feelings, but that you really value her friendship. Ask her what she needs in order to get past the angry stuff.
Time can heal a lot of wounds. And sometimes, as hard as it is to learn, people drift apart.

[Mel-icious]

Originally posted by mitsumushu
well, she is the kind of person that feels aqward alot. Like when we were playing true or dare. I dared her to kiss someone on the cheek and she chose me. She thought i took it the wrong way and she started avoiding me.

Sounds to me like she is embarrassed. She picked you to kiss and you "took it the wrong way" how did you take it the wrong way? Did you get visibley upset in front of everyone? If she is one who feels awkward already, and in an uncomfortable situtation she felt rejected, it maybe more than anger going on here. ;)

[nisha]

Without having more information to go on, it's kinda hard to see the whole situation, but if it were me I would send her some flowers with a card that says "I'm sorry, I don't want our friendship to end....call me when you're ready to talk" or something like that;) Good luck, and let us know how it goes:) (BTW, can you tell I'm a florist???:D)

[mitsumushu]

well, after the dare had happened, her friend had asked, "what was your first thought after that? I said," dang. as in wow, but not that serious. So, then i will just let her cool down and i probably call her in a couple of days to let her know.