Towels

[tifferoo]

Df watched me do laundry this weekend for the first time. Man, I didn't think the way people folded clothes could be soooo different. It was fun though because I found out he is so compulsive at times. For him, all the edges have to be straight when the towels are folded...ha ha. I mean to me, it's just a towel, out of sight, out of mind. But I am curious. I am sure you guys found differences in the way the two of you cleaned, cooked, and did chores, but how did you deal with them? Did you take on your spouse's(or will you take on your df's) method for certain things or all things or do you each do it your own way and let it slide or yell at each other for them not doing it your way? I have decided that I am going to just let him fold the towels since he doesn't mind doing it and I don't meet or care to meet his qualifications on this...ha ha.

[Csara]

Hmm, I guess this would be one of those situations where they say "pick your battles". Honestly, I couldn't imagine yelling at DH, or even yelling at anyone for that matter, for not folding towels or washing dishes, etc. the way I do it. LMAO! I am totally not anal so I don't really need things done a certain way, as long as they are done. ;) And really, DH and I have been living together for atleast 5 years now....we started living together in college when everyone kinda just figures out how to do that kind of stuff anyway so it wasn't difficult for us to adjust to eachother's "habits" at all.

[veda]

bf & i have lived together for about 8.5 yrs, we were roommates before we were a couple so we have pretty different ways of doing some things - which i prefer his way on some & he prefers mine on others. Towels are not to worry about IMO, so however they get folded just doesn't matter to either of us. Most household things just don't bother me - except for leaving the lights on when you leave a room. Or throwing recyclables in the regular trash (just b'c i don't want to have to fish them out later) but bf feels strongly about recycling as well so that only happens when company other than our friends (who recycle too) are over.

i agree with C... its a "pick your battles" type of thing

[angelrenee]

I picked my battle by just agreeing to fold all of the shirts and towels. I honestly bothers the heck out of me if I have to lookat them the way he folds things. It's not worth an argument so I just took on that job for myself so he doesn't even have to worry about it. :) I get my towels folded the way I want them and he gets less laundry work!

[Deana]

I am totally anal about so many things! Dh is pretty laid back about household chores and such. I had to learn to ease up a little bit. I never got mad at him for doing something differently... I just had to realize that my way wasn't the only way. I also have learned (and am still learning) to not sweat the small stuff -- it's SO not worth it. Why get mad about little things? My whole philosophy about getting mad at your spouse b/c they left their shoes in the doorway is that it has nothing to do with the shoes -- it's the underlying issues that you are angry about, kwim?
Now, if I am really compulsive about something (and yes, towels are one of those things!!) I just take care of it. No biggie for me. And I love to do the cooking, so that's never really been an issue (although dh makes the best grilled cheese in town).

[Mrs. July]

I have always done most of the household stuff, so it all gets done my way.:p If DH doesn't like how I do something, he takes care of it himself. ;)

[MissRyry]

tiff--

get this! My DH takes the kitchen towel (no matter how wet it is) and folds it to an exact science and places next to the sink. I think if you use a kitchen towel to wipe up around the sink and stove, you should lay it out flat to dry. Some people wad it through their refrigerator door handle. But I can't get over how anal he is about about folding that towel, corner to corner, placing it next to the sink and turning out the kitchen light.

btw, I've NEVER said anything to him about this. This is definitely not a battle I choose to pick. :p

>'.'<

[pikachu0519]

I'm in agreement with C-you gotta pick your battles. I also agree with Deana, that it's not worth it to sweat the small stuff. I like the way I fold the towels, better than the way Michael does, but it's not really an issue because I do the laundry. Michael will help, but that is basically my domain. Cooking is his. For us, we take on all the chores together, but we've sort of created an unspoken division where he does his and I do mine. Like I said, he likes to cook, so he does most of the time. I could probably count on two hands the number of times I've vacuumed in the almost seven years we've lived together. He likes doing it, so I gladly let him. He'll clean everything in the bathroom but the toilet (he will if he has to), but I don't mind so I do that. As for dishes and dusting, we split on that. Yes there are things that I prefer done my way, like the towels. They fit better and the linen closet is neater when I do it. But when he does do it, I don't correct him or re-do it, otherwise that's just going to tell him that he may as well leave it because I'll end up doing it anyway. There are far bigger things to worry about at the end of a day than cleaning methods and hospital corners, imho, that is.:)

[CATsAngel]

he's pretty touch about how his clothes are hung up... they have to be hung up to where the front of the shirt is faceing you... i humoured him for awhile w/ this but it just got to be a hassle. but in his defense i am pretty anal about my "decorative" areas.. no loose change or mail or receipts in my "decorative areas" i have "pratical areas" for that... (i.e. boxes, shelves, containers.) i usually put the stuff where it has been "designated" while bitching at him.