help cleaning

[yonksgirl]

Does you SO help out with the cleaning? If so how do you divide it up? With me going to school it is hard to get everything done , and Brian said he would help out! I just want to divide it up so no one gets stuck with the brunt of it.

[Mel-icious]

T is a HUGE help to me around the house. Number one he does his own laundry, as does Nick since he's 14 and more than capable. Its something he has done since we dated. His theory is, when we were dating he didn't show up at my house with his laundry so why should he start now? He has two hands and knows his way around a washing machine. ;)

After the girls are upstairs in bed he also helps me clean up the disaster they left behind. On the weekends we clean together, he'll do the dishes while I vaccuum, or he'll clean the bathroom while I tackle cleaning the girls room. After dinner he'll clear the table and I'll do the dishes, and vice versa. We don't divide it up, it just happens naturally. :smoking:

[Beany]

Wow, you're so very lucky! Got only myself to blame. 22 years ago, I took over where "mommy" left off. Today, I don't have 3 children, I HAVE 4!!! I'm exhausted! And now I'm headed back to work full-time! Got to speak up and let dh carry some of the load. I love my husband dearly, he's my best friend. But it's time I teach him to "help" me out with the housework, kids, and such! Any woman who has a man who is "in-tune" with such household life is INCREDIBLY LUCKY! I need to "instill" such values in my own boys!

Funny, my young boys have to fold and put away their own clothes, and they have other daily chores. But I'M STILL DOING IT FOR MY OWN HUSBAND! What kind of example is that!!!?????:huh:

[honeybunny]

I end up doing most of it since we both work full time, but he's also in graduate school. Plus, I like to clean! But he does his own laundry and often does the dishes when I haven't had a chance to get to them. (That's supposed to be my job since he cooks most of the time.) If we are on a mad cleaning spree (like someone's coming over in 2 hours), he will help by vacuuming, sweeping, or cleaning up the kitchen. He's also relatively good about putting his things away. I kind of lucked out because he has a low tolerance for mess, so he starts helping when things get bad. Maybe you guys could assign tasks so that it's all agreed on in the beginning and it's fair. Also, it helps to discuss what you like or hate to do in the cleaning area. Often one person will just HATE a particular task and the other doesn't mind so much. If you trade off that way, then you'll both be pleased that you got out of the worst of it. For example, I would rather do dishes and hubby would rather cook. We both feel pampered! :D

[Kale]

Hubby works outside the home full time I homeschool and wk part time the child comes with me and does the schoolwork,even helps a little.
I get all the money and do every single thing (one child left home helps always) unless he (Hubby) gets an angel in his ear to clean ,Hubby likes to shop with me but Id rather do it without him cause he throws my budget out of wack !

I keep a certain day everyweek to do major cleaning laundry is to be done on or before every weds. If done sooner we play or do board games,its a free day (along with Sunday )


Kale

[MeatBall]

Here is something I posted ~ great minds think alike!
Hi - while we are thinking about getting a maid, I am curious about division of labor...
I do:
most cooking
most cleaning kitchen
most shopping
loading/unloading dishwasher
vacuuming
some errands
share cleaning litte boxes
most maintenance of outdoor space...

Wife does:
most cleaning
laundry- machine and folding
changing bedding
swiffer
bathrooms
some errands

She thinks I don't realize how much she does around the house.... and I don't think she realizes my side either...

So, what am missing?

[Kale]

I read this earlier but thought someone would have replied by now
I think that is sorta fair, you’d have to do the shopping if you are cooking.
You'll vac after she dusts? or something like that?
Is there a way for you to organize a clean up day or time for the heavier cleaning?
Or each have thier own chores?
Who will take out the garbage and repair things when needed?
do you both buy lunch (while working) and are you home to prepare dinner ?WIll you both be there to share din din?
I think you do quite a bit ! Bathrooms aren’t that hard to keep up with if you squeegie the water off the tiles and walls after a shower. It only takes but a min or so to do and saves having to scrub when cleaning.
Wife will hang up clothing and put away? Iron yours as well as her if needed?
Now that I’m thinking it seems like you have the more time consuming part her is kinda ,well how many loads of laundry are we talking? 4 loads tops per week? If your in the kitchen and need clean hand towels is she going to run to the washer and put in a load ?
If she needs din din or lunch are you going to make it? Who’s going to get the gas for the mower if (you have lawn /flowers who waters it ?

This is a tough call cause a house all runs together, it can be done but how is she going to swivel are you going to vac moments before?

Get a cleaning person and let it all be done at once .and share some more time with your hard working wifie


Id break up all the jobs to give each other a break, rotating may work.
When I had 4 children in my care they all had thier own chore, then we rotated.Of course this is not children but the point is Nobody really likes doing the same chore over for too long ,unless it is a package, stay home and run the house. Are you going to be upset if she forgot to wash your clothes cause you forgot the laundry detergent? Is she going to be up set cause you forgot her favorite butter? Just throwin this at ya .It has to work together.
I guess if you guys communicate well it can work but I still say get a helper to do deeper cleaning in the kitchen all the bathrooms vac and dust. you 2 can then have more time for yourselves or each other or both. While the washer is going she can relax for a few and you can cook up another great meal then you can split the cleaning /straightening the kitchen out and share a little time together with a movie or something... .What do I know my 2 sleepy sense *LOL
I was going to reply tommorow but worried Id forget and you’d go unanswered so there ya have it . Hope I helped

Kale

Ill check back in soon ...
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