Internet love?

[HeavenLeigh]

K, spill it chickies. How many of you have met someone in person that you have correponded with via internet? How'd it go? If you haven't would you? If you have would you do it again?

Me. Yes, twice. Once was a guy I chatted w/ and then spoke with on the phone. He seemed like a true dream-boat. We met, it went okayish until he ticked me off. It ended w/ me slamming the hotel door in his stupid face. The other guy I met was by pure accident. He lives about 45 minutes from me and told me about a business he and his father have. There was a local fair like type thing at the mall and they were there. I didn't approach him then but about 2 weeks later seen him at a bar and introduced myself then. He would call and seemed like a nice guy...until I was working one night and he came into the E.R beat half to death, drunk---I mean DRUNK---and positive for almost every drug imaginable. So there went that.

[rach]

Never I'm new at this internet thing so far all I've found and enjoyed is Wedding Talkers and of course Home Talkers. A friend of my sisters met a girl on the net she was from Canada, any ways that was about four years ago and the have now been married for I think two and quater years and are living in Aus. I've heard some disaster stories but this one wasn't one of those.

xxxxRach

[brandis77]

I have met lots of people over the internet. Now that everyone uses it, it seems really strange that people still have the impression that meeting people this way is "strange" or "creepy".

I have met the Austin Wedding Talkers, and we all seem to have things in common outside of getting married. I can definitely see some friendships forming out of that!

Most importantly, I met Jeremy on the internet. For those of you who don't know the story, here it is! When I was in my last year of high school, I was planning a trip to New York City. I had never been before and I wanted to know about stores to check out and bands to see. I posted a message on a punk rock mailing list I was subscribed to and got several responses, one of which was from Jeremy.

Jeremy and I started e-mailing each other frequently. I had a boyfriend at the time, so nothing romantic even entered my mind. Plus, I lived in Canada and he was in Texas! We sent e-mails and exchanged tapes for several years and became quite close.

When I was in college, my live-in relationship (at the time) was going pretty badly, and I took a break by spending the summer living and working in Ireland. The whole time I was there, I looked forward to getting e-mails from Jeremy more than anything!

After I got home, my relationship turned extremely ugly and I felt like my world had collapsed. Jeremy was there for me the whole time. We talked on the phone for the first time that September, and I got such a wonderful feeling about him! He was so sweet and complimented me several times. I really wasn't used to being treated so well, and I could feel that something special was starting to happen.

I was able to fly to Texas for the first time that October, and meeting Jeremy for the first time after talking for so long was very strange. He tells me that for him, it was love at first sight. I was very hesitant to get involved in anything so soon after my horrible relationship had blown up, but I really fell for him. I was able to see him at least once a month from then on, and we always had an amazing time togther.

I don't want to bore you with any more sappy details, but my point is that we have a wonderful relationship. I don't know anyone who is as happy as we are! Even on our honeymoon when we met other newlyweds, we were definitely the happiest people there by FAR.

Whenever I tell people how we met, they give me a strange look .. like meeting on the internet is a creepy thing or something. It really bothers me when people think that, because it's not that way at all. It's gotten to the point where we both sometimes lie to people about the way we met to avoid dealing with comments or looks.

[Cheatara]

I've met people off of one msg board, but never met anyone romantically, or whatever. I know a girl who started talking to a guy on AOL IM, the talked on that and the phone for 4 months, never actually meeting, and flew to las vegas and got married. They met for the first time IRL less than 12 hours before their wedding! The marriage only lasted 4 months, of course. Also I know many, like more than 20, older(35+) women who have left their husbands to move in with guys off the internet, then got beat half to death and came back to their husbands a couple weeks later... So I think I have a right to think that meeting people romantically over the internet is creepy. It has never worked out for anyone I know personally.

[Csara]

My best friend met her fiance on line. Ofcourse they met in person shortly after and began dating and moved in together after a couple of months. They are getting married next month and they are extremely well suited for eachother. Infact, they seem to be a perfect match. Personally, I might have a weird time doing it because people are not always truthful online, but I think once you actually meet them in person, you can take it from there. No matter how you meet someone, you can always end up being decieved. You just never know......

[Elysium1972]

Originally posted by Cheatara
Also I know many, like more than 20, older(35+) women who have left their husbands to move in with guys off the internet, then got beat half to death and came back to their husbands a couple weeks later...

That's what my ex did....except I refused to take her back!:D
And it was the best thing that ever happened to me because it allowed me to meet Melissa. Sucked for her....oh well.

But Brandis, your right that in this day and age when half of everything done is done on the internet, it should not seem creepy anymore. And success stories like yours should be applauded.:clap:
People are often deceptive on the web, and it is a risk to meet someone you've never really met before. But if someone allows themselves to be taken advantage of or abused by someone they "met" on the web, it's not the webs fault, it's theirs. And it probably would've happened whether thay met the person on the web, or the grocery store, or the library, or......

[Ellyanne777]

Some of you know me from Wedding Talkers and when we all met you know I was engaged to a man I met on the internet. I was very happy with him but slowly the man I fell in love with showed his true colors.
No I would not do it again. I loved the fact of being able to fall in love with someone's mind and personality over their looks but not again....I want to see you face to face...I want to see all your facial expressions...the way they turn their eyes when they lie...everything.

[suzieq728]

I met someone once online. He was a real nice guy, he still is. We met in a chat room, and wound up talking online everyday for a year. Then we progressed to phone calls. That went on for about another 8 months. We had talked about meeting in person, but he is in Texas, and I in New York, at the time I dont think I ever thought about really meeting him in person, just a lot of chat.
Then my sister moved to Arkansas, and I went to visit her. Since he was close to Arkansas he said he would meet me there, I was ok with that cause we would meet and I would have people around. Well we did meet, he was a great guy, too bad he forgot to tell me he was married!!! To this day, we are still friends, and I am so glad it all worked out the way it did, I found out he was married before anything serious happened. And, I made a new friend. I know why he lied, and I understand, but you lie once, I know your going to lie again. So nothing could ever become of it, except a friendship.

[HeavenLeigh]

Love all the stories. True dat Tommy, if someone is a mean spirited person they will be mean no matter where you meet them.
Love your story Brandis, how sweet!!
I loved everybodys story (Elysia--sorry yours didn't turn out the way you wanted it to, but the way it turned out was for the best) I am seriously considering meeting a guy whom I met online right after I first seperated (last April). We have chatted and Emailed for almost a year and 1/2 now. We have discovered a lot of common intrests and have never talked romantically or anything like that. Just buds. I'll keep y'all posted on that.

[rach]

I forgot that you guys have met or most of you, internet friendships can be good and they can be disatrous. But I think their pretty much even. It's just that you here so many bad stories no one is willing to tell good ones.

xxxxRach

[heiny]

I have met several people that I can really relate to on the net... But I don't know if I owuld meet them in person or not!!! It would take a really long time for me to trust anyone to meet them...

[Margarita]

I agree with Tommy, you can meet creeps anywhere. You just have to be smart about who you hang out with.

I've got to tell this story. My BIL signed up with an online dating service based in the Ukraine!!!! It was basically a mail-order bride service. After 3 months of emails and phone conversations with translator assistance (she didn't speak English), he went there for a week to meet the girl and proposed. :eek: They were planning on getting married this Thanksgiving, but then he found out he got scammed. She just wanted to get into the country.

Now, he's signed up for another service in the same area and is going in October - probably to propose AGAIN! :rolleyes: I doubt he'll ever learn.

[Margarita]

Rach, only the Austin girls have met as far as I know, so not most of us really. I wish, though.

[rach]

Originally posted by Margarita
Rach, only the Austin girls have met as far as I know, so not most of us really. I wish, though. Sorry my mistake, wouldn't it be nice to go to a tropical island withallthe regulars. sigh!!!!!!!!

[suzieq728]

Ladies, when I win the big one, we are all going to OUR OWN island... All expenses paid of course. I hope that one day we all do get to meet each other. Can you just imagine what a party that will be.. Woo hoo,, party time... :D

[rach]

Hey Suzie your a chatterbox too. Yah!!!!!!!!!!!!! Lets party :bday: hard

[HeavenLeigh]

I say we all look into taking a weekend cruise, one of those all-inclusive Island getaways, or just pick a city near an airport that is in the middle of everybody that wants to meet and go for it!!!

[rach]

I'm in when do we go and how do we choose

[Trixie]

I've met a few guys on the net. I went on a few first dates but that was it, no second date. It kinda creeps me out. I rather meet my man in person.

[suzieq728]

Krysti
I am ready and willing, lets do it! :)

Rach,
Yep I didnt even notice until you mentioned it, but I am a chatter box now, not that that is anything new, I have always been a chatterbox...;)

Trixe
Are you married, dating, have a SO, single??? pick one LOL..
Im single, and loving it.. ;)

[HeavenLeigh]

I say we look into time frames, prices, and everybody's schedule. I'm off every weekend and that would be great for me, but I could take a few days off during the week (if put in far enough ahead of time) and come to meet ya silly ppl:D . I would love to get together. It would be 2 :cool: . I'm sure if enough ppl wants to do this we could get group discounts and all that at a hotel and on those all inclusive vacations the more ppl that go the cheaper they are. I say we make like Nike and just do it!!! Who is game and when would be a good time?

[suzieq728]

ME ME ME ME!!! I am all to ready, willing, and able...
Come on guys lets do this :trip: :dance: :dance:

[suzieq728]

Oh BTW, I am off weekends too, but if I need a couple of days during the week, I can do that too.. ;)

[HeavenLeigh]

Suzie....I'm gonna post this under a new thread under the general topic. More ppl goes there. I hope everyone is game!

[Deana]

As far as meeting people over the internet...
I think it's been said here, perhaps in a different form, but I see the internet no different than meeting someone in a bar, the store, etc. You still have to be as cautious and listen to your gut. I don't think it's the venue that's creepy, it's that there are some really creepy people!
No, I did not meet my fiance over the internet, but we did meet in a bar. I think it would probably be more accepted these days to say that we met over the net though.

[HeavenLeigh]

Deana......true dat. As far as meeting in bars, everybody warns against it. Saying those that go to bars are no count.....but hey I go to bars and I'm a good girl (um....well MOST of the time:D ) I'm no psychopath or trashy ho (I'm a very respectable one! Joking!) but ANYWHERE you meet someone there is always that 50/50 % chance that they are decent. Most guys I know that go to church on Sunday are the same ones that get out and party at bars on Saturday.....which is sad, but true.

[suzieq728]

Krysti
Excellent point. I couldnt agree more. ;)

[scully]

For those of you who dont already know from WT i met Jim online. I lived in Australia and he lived in Texas. After 2 years talking online and using voice programs and the telephone i got to Texas and it was just such an amazing feeling to meet him in person. I was comfortable with him immediately. He drove 5 hours to san antonio to meet me from west texas...i know it was a stupid irresponsible thing to do to let a 'stranger" (i didnt think of him as a stranger but other people flipped out when they heard) stay in my house. I was scared to meet him nor particularly nervous and as soon as I walked out to meet him i kissed him and he said 'woah that was worth the wait.' and the rest is history..we got engaged 3 weeks later, moved in together a week after that and we are getting married feb16th 2002. Only reason we arent married already is that we want to get married in australia and anyone who has seen the price of plane tickets to australia will understand why we needed the time to save!

[suzieq728]

Wow Scully
What a amazing story. I also met someone online once. We talked online for almost 2 yrs also. So I know the feeling of finally meeting and feeling like you are not strangers.
My meeting didnt work out so well though, he was married and was thinking about divorce, but that was not good enough for me.
We are still friends, but nothing more. But I dont regret the meeting. ;)

[HeavenLeigh]

Here's my newest net venture. Last year I chatted w/ a guy named Jason (I remember his ID, but can't for the life of me remember chatting w/ him). When I met Shawn I stopped chatting. I deleted all of my 'friends' from my list and the only time I was on the puter I was here or over in WT. Well about a week, give or take after Shawn and I broke up this guy pops up asking me if I remembered him. Nope, he said he didn't remember me either but I was on his friends list. He hadn't chatted in about 8 months. So we siad our hellos and all of that. He was going thru a break up too. We cried on each others shoulder, blah, blah. He always would make me feel better by being strong when I was down and vice versa. I gained a lot of strength from him by being strong from him. He told me I was an angel that helped him thru a lot. We were talking about fate one day when we decided it was fate that had brought us together. We both were in need of a friend that understood what we were going thru. I call him my bubby and he calls me sissy. We either chat, Email or leave IM's to each other everyday. He lives in Cookville, Tn and we plan to meet in a couple of months. He tells me about his dates, I tell him about mine, I know his past, he knows mine. It's nothing romantic but I feel a strong bond w/ him. He has been a true friend.....a faceless soul that has brightened my day when it seemed like it was dark. When I meet Bubby (real name Jason) I'll let y'all know when, where, and etc... That way if don't return to these boards hopefully one of you will call the cops!! lol.....I'll be careful. I know that even the sorriest excuse for a human can put on a good show (like my ex) and will have someone there w/ me when I meet him. We'll meet in a public place and I will not go off alone w/ him until I have met w/ him a few times.

[nandan]

I have had this experience.I put my profile Feb 2002 on Cupid Junction,and had got alot of matches.I picked out three favorites and met two of them.The one turned out to be a jerk,but the 2nd one lasted till this past February. He lived about an hour away at the time and used to comeup and get me every weekend,and we would stay at his home with his two daughters.When I couldn't go down there,he would come up during the week,and we'd go out.But through time we got close,but in the end i think he just didn't know what he wanted out of our relationship.But he's the nicest guy,now we're friends.But THE best thing from this relationship was that I gained confidence in dealing with men.I had never had guy friends,and all of a sudden I did I have 5.I so missed thhough the closeness in a relationship that I wanted to try again.So I put a new profile on cupid junction and are corresponding with three guys.
They are the greatest guys! I've met only one of them.We've been out twice.The other two ,not yet.One is too crazy for me to deal with ,but is a good chat friend.The other I've yet to meet.They are all within my area.All can get to me within and hour or so.Both times I went out,we took my 8 yr. old son with us.And we've had a great time.We talk online and on the phone almost every night.Then besides them I have hung out with 3 other guys where I live.So I'm just enjoying being able to just hang out and have fun.If anything develops with W. then I will take it easy,and enjoy it. So it's what you put into it....After all at 43 I'm getting too old to waste away!!

[Toryah]

I met Bryan online :D It shocked me at first and was an issue to me for a couple of months after we met, we only chatted for 2 weeks online and then met face to face and BOY am i glad i went along with it :D

Now I dont even think about how we met...my family dont know becuase they would respond funny and they love him so why upset the apple cart :confused:

Give it a whirl...as long as your safe and sensible about it...you just never know what could be round the corner ;)

[suzieq728]

I think you should go for it, but as was said before, be CAREFUL!
Meet in a public place. In a place that you are familer with and feel safe. When I met my friend from Texas I took my sister and neice along so I was not alone.
As I said before, he was married and only thinking about divorce so it never went anywhere. But, we are still friends, and I have since met his wife and children and he has met a lot of my family.
Today he is divorced, but it does not matter, I still think of him as a very good friend, and when I am in Arkansas I always have lunch with his now ex-wife. Who I might add is a very very nice person. So I really made 2 nice friends out of my little internet experience....
I am glad it worked out the way the did. They are really nice people and I would not have wanted to hurt either one of them.

As a matter of fact, when I go to Arkansas this year, his wife & kids and I will be visiting Memphis togehter, she wants to go to Elvis's home, I forgot the name of it, I just want to go to Memphis LOL.. So we talked about it and they will drive to Ark and stay at my sisters over night, then we are off to Memphis for 2 days... I cant wait!:D

[mikej_8080]

I've met people from the internet. Same as meeting people in the 'real world', but you may be kinda surprised that they aren't exactly who you thought they were. I say meet early, don't chat for months before meeting, that will make it weird.

[nandan]

Hi Mike, I don't agree abot not chatting for months before meeting.It helped me.We had built a tremendous friendship online for a few months and then we met in the mall and it was easy to go in and know who you were looking for.We could go right to each other and already have things to talk about.It was great.My current friend ,i met online and we met and talk online alot every day.It's nice in a way to build a great start in the friendship.To already have broken the ice,and know alot already about that person.Maybe not for everyone,but for me it's great.

[Dovechild20]

My last 2 ex's and my current love, I met online. Not purposefully, i didnt sign up for any match making services or anything, just surfing the net, chatting, that kind of thing.

I think that people are slowly taking off the stigma of meeting people online, just like they have for meeting someone in the personal ads. But for most people, they are going to stay conservative as far as meeting people go. Really, it is the same dangers and different benefits as it is for meeting someone at a store, park, or by a friend.

[nofoolanymore]

I have made some friend from online in a divorce board and I have also dated off the internet, so far the internet dating isn't going too well. Although, I did date one for a few weeks. The friends I have met...well, thay have helped me through some of the toughest years of my life and some will forever remain in my life.

[Nin26]

Im not a fan of chat however early this year one late night bored,
feeling down and alone (after breaking up with my ex bf of 2 years) i found myself on the internet mucking around on yahoo chat .. i found yahoo chat boring with all those indians after cyber sex till R.J IM me ....

We talked for ages .about everything .about life, our hopes and dreams .. we connected immediately..we talked for ages right till
early morning .. he had me from day 1! :)

Ever since that night we met online almost everyday ..chatting away getting to know each other..falling for him deeply more and more everyday .. seeing his pics and webcam .. hearing his sexy voice on the phone .. omg!! he is everything i ever wanted!!! Sexy blue eyes, dark hair, cutie face, nicely built body.. with tats and peircings :) HE IS HOT!!! :)))

The only thing that sucks real bad is that he is from Illinois and im based here in Australia :(

There have been some tough times ... my family not fully accepting the fact i was talking to some guy i met off the net ... and even our long distance relationship .. it been hard on both of us ..not being able to see/be with each other face to face .. My family and friends have now accepted the fact that i am serious about R.J ..that R.J. serious about me too which is a good thing.. they have seen me talking to him everyday either over
phone or net .. we even both sent each other gifts for our birthdays .. it been preety full on!

It been close to 1 year since we been talking now .. He has been a HUGE part of my life this year .. we have shared good times and tough times .. we have shared everything together ..thoughts and feelings.. stuff ive never shared with anyone that been in my life ..

.. i dont know what it is but i do feel real good about it all ..
i just feel that he is the right one for me .. I care & love him deeply ...he is my heart :)

I know that I will be really hurt and dissapointed if we did not meet ... but then again if it fate and if he is the one for me .. things will work out between us ..

the last i heard from him he said things will be real tough because he will work hard to get to me .. he even mentioned that he's got a suprise for me when he gets down here .. who knows .. I can't wait to find out! :) if he was to come down here it would probably be thee most romantic thing anyone guy has everdone for me :)

Honestly I never thought i would meet and fall in love with anyone especially off the internet let alone oceans away from me .. but it happened to me totally unexpectantly!!!
and i dont regret one bit of it .. i never thought/ think of RJ as my internet boy .. it really strange because i just feel that ive known him all my life even though we never have
literally met face to face!

I love you R.J and i miss ya like crazyy!!! :* Can't wait till the day we are finally together!!! :*

Luv to ya always

Nin :*

[stills_stinks]

hello to all and just a new guy here a old redneck who has a very hard time writing and spelling so hold on .
internet dating well my take is this i use t to pre sort and get to kow some then i want a face to face and not just once in a bit ither so lond distance is many out of it for me .
have meet a few but still single as i will not settal again .
now what most complan about with men i have the same about woman and i could be a woman hater from what the ex did but i refus to as i will judge as i am treated not whats in the past

i have a few good friends now from the internet ( man hates theat word for woman friends ) and thats great but so far no miss right
i always go with both head and gut and move from there
and set a limit in miles i can aford and am willing to travial if that helps any one.

[Country1969]

I met my wife on the internet. Funny I saw her in a chat room on AOL about 9 years ago and click on her name and saw that she lived a few minutes over the river from me. We set up a date for that Friday and we have been together since that date. Together for 9 years total and been only married to her for 1 1/2 years. We decided to wait to see what happens and we kept putting it off due to certain things...but on Christmas 2001 , i gave her an ring. We got married June 1,2002.

[FarmGirl]

I met my husband on the internet.

I ws going through a really hard time - getting over a stalker (I had to move to a different state), I had just hd a miscarriage, my boyfriend at the time was starting to become emotionally violent (I kicked his butt out :D ) and I was just all around in the dumps. So, one night I went on the computer to a chat room, and I met my hubby. We chatted on the computer for 6 months, then we started to call each other on the telephone and still chatted on the computer, then in another 6 months we met in person. I took pictures of him and his car and his license plates, and emailed them to all of my friends and family, just in case! I scanned his drivers license into the computer, and emailed that with the pictures. I was very paranoid, lol. We hit it off, as we knew we would... and a year after we met in person he proposed to me, 5 months after that we bought a house and got married.. and this past November we celebrated our 2nd wedding anniversary.

I would recomend it to everyone, but it worked for us. But we talked for a full year before meeting, and I think that is what made a difference to us. We knew everything about each other.

[CATsAngel]

well i have an internet love sucess story. met my hunny on the net and met him in person then we had a great normal relationship after that. But as for having an internet relationship.. well all kinds of deception can happen as it did for my hunny. i will let him tell the story if he chooses.

[Sexy Strawberry]

I was 14 and I liked to chat because it helped me to learn English, one day I met a Spanish guy in the chatroom where I used to go (this had never happened before) and the funniest part is that his nick (which was evil_raver) was exactly the same as another guy's I knew on that chat. So I started to talk to him because I thought he was the other guy I knew and that's how I discovered he was Spanish.
He was five years and a half older than me, he studied at university and worked as a dj at nights. The next days he sent me huge e-mails and then we started to talk on messenger. Some weeks later he confessed me he felt something very special towards me. I had started to have the same feeling, so we became an "internet couple" and six months later we met.
He wasn't exactly the way I thought, but he was really nice. I noticed that reality and the internet are really different, anyway I was very lucky to meet him, he had become my best friend and my first real boyfriend.
Unfortunately we lived too far away and two years and a half later I decided to break our relationship. We're still in touch and we are good friends. My parents like him and my brother and he are very good friends.
I've promised I will never date anyone who I've met on the internet again, but anyway, it was a sweet story :)