ratherbetravlin
05-06-2005, 03:30 PM
Mother’s Day has always been kinda strange for me since 1992. See, I was 25 1/2 weeks pregnant over Mother’s Day that year, expecting my first child in September that year and I received a Mother’s Day card from my husband (now ex-husband.) Shortly after Mother’s Day, on May 26th, I went into premature labor as a result of an incompetent cervix and delivered a 1 pound 9 ounce boy, Ryan, who graced me with his presence for only eight hours before departing this earth.
None of my family acknowledges me on Mother’s Day, which I appreciate since it can prove to be quite painful, even after all these years. However, I never know what to say when someone asks me if I’m a mother, or wishes me a Happy Mother’s Day. I hate to say, “Yes,” and get into the whole story cause it usually makes the other person feel awful, but saying, “No,” feels like I’m denying Ryan’s existence – short though it was. I’ve resigned myself to this being something I have to deal with every year, although I do try to avoid eating out on Mother’s Day. Actually, I typically hide at home to avoid the whole thing!
To all you other ladies who’ve suffered the loss of a child, be it an infant or an adult, and those of you struggling with fertility issues who see Mother’s Day as a reminder that you are childless, I send hugs and prayers your way this Sunday. :hug::hug::hug::hug:
None of my family acknowledges me on Mother’s Day, which I appreciate since it can prove to be quite painful, even after all these years. However, I never know what to say when someone asks me if I’m a mother, or wishes me a Happy Mother’s Day. I hate to say, “Yes,” and get into the whole story cause it usually makes the other person feel awful, but saying, “No,” feels like I’m denying Ryan’s existence – short though it was. I’ve resigned myself to this being something I have to deal with every year, although I do try to avoid eating out on Mother’s Day. Actually, I typically hide at home to avoid the whole thing!
To all you other ladies who’ve suffered the loss of a child, be it an infant or an adult, and those of you struggling with fertility issues who see Mother’s Day as a reminder that you are childless, I send hugs and prayers your way this Sunday. :hug::hug::hug::hug: